AM I LOVING MYSELF?
Self-loving is a conversation we continuously need to be having; with kids and peers at all levels. Without self-love, there is no way you will enjoy your life and appreciate others in the process.
In the field of psychology, self-love has been explained as a state of appreciation for oneself that grows from actions that support our physical, mental and spiritual growth.
Self-love isn’t simply a state concerning feeling good. Right now, where you are, are you contemplating whether you love yourself? The following pointers can bring you some clarity:
Empathizing with your weaknesses:
Most of us are very hard on ourselves when it comes to behaviours, habits and attitudes we consider our weaknesses. But in self-love, the goal is to avoid being overly critical of yourself. Recognize that such behaviours or weaknesses are rooted in some unpleasant experiences you have been through.
By acknowledging such experiences, you begin to understand why you are quick-angered, timid, fearfulness, over-dependent etc. Your goal is to be patient with yourself and gently and gradually work at becoming the kind of person you want to be.
Acknowledging your strengths and taking healthy pride in things you are able to do well is a way of loving yourself. Validate yourself. Don’t wait for external compliments.
Be your own cheerleader because you’ll always not have people around to tell you how smart, creative, intelligent or unique you are. You have to identify your strengths, name them one by one, and cherish the person they make you.
Investing in yourself, talents and skills:
No one really knows you as you know yourself. You know the dreams, hopes, talents and skills you have, and importantly, the ambitions you have for them.